Are You the Black Sheep in Your Family?
An article I read online made me think of this question, “Are you the black sheep in your family?” I think sometime or another most people consider themselves the black sheep of their family. You could be the Black Sheep in your family, but it doesn't always mean that you're looked upon as being bad, just different.
As a boy, I considered myself the black sheep in my family. I remember a time when I was sent upstairs to my room by my father around Christmas, while the rest of the family was down stairs having fun and decorating the house, including my brother who was only 1 year older than me. There were times that some of my siblings thought of me as being different, because I was quite. I was also creative and eventually became an artist. I was the youngest child in my family as well. Surprisingly, research shows most people who consider themselves a black sheep are the youngest sibling in their family. There are still times I consider myself the black sheep.
An article about the family black sheep in the New York Times a while back said, "the black sheep needs to be there for the holidays to remind the rest of the family of how wonderful they are." The article went on to say... "Anyone can be the black sheep for just about any reason. In families there are one or two opinion leaders who define the values and culture of the family. Those values can be moral or ethical; they can rest on success in business or involvement in sports or the arts." The article also said, "The black sheep is simply the person who deviates from the family rules." Dr. Thomas Lasswell, in the The New York Times article said, "Black Sheep are self-defined, rather than having someone in the family tell them." He said, "It's usually a mutually agreed-on direction, but the black sheep accepts it with a smile on his face." I too accept who I am with a smile on my face, and why shouldn't I. I have wonderful children who love me and I love them all the same. My wife is fantastic, she is the reason and understanding in my life. She's a beautiful person.
So I ask you, are you a black sheep in your family and are you OK with that? Tell me your story. I would love to hear it and post it on the BNG blog, with your approval of course.
Source: Parts of this article include excerpts from the New York Times archives.